It's time to close the oOrgasm gap.

The oOrgasm gap can go both ways. While men report cumming twice as often as straight women, once we find our way, pleasure can be multi-orgasmic.

In this latest study of 24,752 participants, we are reminded of the disparaging gap between men and women when it comes to orgasms. Straight women continued to report less than half the orgasms initiated by their male counterparts. 

This gap is further exacerbated by reports that men, on average, take 5-7 minutes to cum while women average 13-15 minutes. Clearly the math is not adding up for heterosexual women. 

Never had an orgasm? It may take time and practice to dial in your first orgasm but once you find your way, with practice, the benefits suggest you may want to keep coming back for more.

It is important to explore your body on your own to find what works for you.  Get to know yourself.  Finding your way often starts with self love and your first time may come with fingers, vibrator, toys or shower head. Don’t give up. When you learn to free your mind for orgasms, pleasure takes on a new meaning.   

Whether you’re first “O” or multiple “oO’s”, find 4 tips to take you there: 

1. Set the Mood, Show Up and Stay Present (orgasms are mental) 

2. Start with your clitoris and discover what works for you (lube, fingers, mouth, and toys are your friends)  

3. Don’t fake it. Communicate (with yourself and partner)   

4. Practice, Practice, Practice (experience matters) 

The key to multiple, single session orgasms, stacked or intermittent, is the same way you may find that first “O”. It all starts with showing up, practice, and building a routine around pleasure. 

Unlike men, who are subject to a refractory period, women can and should get their motor rolling before shagging. The shower is a great place to dial in an orgasm before sex and can help get the mind and body aroused and ready for more. 

An orgasm is a powerful feeling of pleasure. Some people can experience multiple orgasms. Anecdotal evidence suggests those assigned female at birth can achieve as many as 20 orgasms in a row during sex.  

Benefits to finding those oO’s: 

• During oOrgasm the body releases endorphins, dopamine, vasopressin all wonderful feel good, love hormones. 

• Orgasms increase estrogen, oxytocin and prolactin levels which play a role in preventing wrinkles and abdominal fat 

• Arousal and orgasmic breathing increases blood flow and oxygen in the body for better heart hearth and a strong immune system

• Increased neuroplasticity. Yes, that orgasm will help you think more clearly.  

Men, we need you to push beyond the 5-7 minute orgasm! It takes practice to stay in the game longer and stronger. We are rooting for you. 

Ways to close the “oO”gap: 

• Get ready feeling sexy.  You get multiple “oO’s”, find one in the shower before you shag. 

• Bring fingers, mouth and toys to the party and teach your partner what makes you sing.

• Slow, slow, slow it all down. Once he comes it’s over until he’s ready to go again.

• Free your Mind.  Cannabis can be a powerful tool to take you there.

• Shame is not welcome to orgasmic fun. Your mind will play tricks, feel no shame.

• Confidence is key. Practice will lead to increased self-esteem. To close the orgasm gap you may need to bring your own “balls” to the bedroom. 

  
  

Orgasmic effects are long lasting:

• Increased estrogen, oxytocin and prolactin levels

• Stress release and cortisol reduction 

• Better sleep, immune and heart health 

• Less depression and anxiety

• Improved self-esteem

Women are capable of multiple oOrgasms during a single session yet, unlike men, women often need their brains to shut off to allow pleasure in.

Want to Free your mind? We did a deeper dive on incorporating cannabis into sexplay.

When we choose to prioritize pleasure, to free our minds, and build routine around oOrgasms we can bridge the gap. 

Once we find our groove, hang on tight ladies, there may be no stopping you!